How do I get people to come to my best friend’s bachelorette party? (No one agrees with the wedding!)?
Peachy Keen, Jelly Bean asked:
My best friend is getting married on April 21st and picked me to throw the bachelorette party (I’m not in the wedding in any way. Her MOH is her little sister and she doesn’t trust her with the plans or the expenses, and the bridesmaids are her cousins in Texas. We live in Georgia). The only thing is, no one agrees with the wedding. The guy she is marrying has cheated on her many, many times (this includes during the engagement) and everyone knows this and has tried to tell her but she won’t listen. She’s gotten on everyone’s nerves for talking non-stop about her fiancee and her wedding plans and for not listening when they advise her against the union. Basically, she’s more in love with the idea of getting married and moving out of her parents’ house than she is with her fiancee. These are the same people who I would be inviting to the bachelorette party but all of them have said they won’t even be coming to the wedding! How do I get them to come to the bachelorette party?!
And yes, I’ve even tried to tell her about her fiancee’s cheating ways but she won’t even listen to me! She’s very naive.
To clarify on one of the answers: I can’t take just her out. She wants a big bash with all the people who don’t agree with the marriage. She doesn’t know they won’t be coming to the wedding, much less the bachelorette party.
My best friend is getting married on April 21st and picked me to throw the bachelorette party (I’m not in the wedding in any way. Her MOH is her little sister and she doesn’t trust her with the plans or the expenses, and the bridesmaids are her cousins in Texas. We live in Georgia). The only thing is, no one agrees with the wedding. The guy she is marrying has cheated on her many, many times (this includes during the engagement) and everyone knows this and has tried to tell her but she won’t listen. She’s gotten on everyone’s nerves for talking non-stop about her fiancee and her wedding plans and for not listening when they advise her against the union. Basically, she’s more in love with the idea of getting married and moving out of her parents’ house than she is with her fiancee. These are the same people who I would be inviting to the bachelorette party but all of them have said they won’t even be coming to the wedding! How do I get them to come to the bachelorette party?!
And yes, I’ve even tried to tell her about her fiancee’s cheating ways but she won’t even listen to me! She’s very naive.
To clarify on one of the answers: I can’t take just her out. She wants a big bash with all the people who don’t agree with the marriage. She doesn’t know they won’t be coming to the wedding, much less the bachelorette party.
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these people are doing the right thing. protest the wedding. they are just going to end up divorcing, why go through the trouble. is it really worth it? you can try you hardest to get these people to come to the celebration, but if all of them say no, what can you do? the grl needs to step back into reality! i feel bad for her~ and you as well! good luck
leave them alone
Don’t even try. Let her know right now that you can’t put together this bachelorette party because none of the intended guests plan on coming, so she’ll just have to skip that part, and let her know she better plan on eloping unless she wants to waste money on a wedding and reception that few people are planning to attend…and then step back and let the chips fall where they may…sure beats wasting your time and money on this impending fiasco…and maybe she’ll understand that you (and everyone else) mean business with their objections and warnings. If not, it’s all on her then…
If she is determined to get married then there is nothing you can do. As far as the bachelorette party, tell her you are taking just her out. If you can find 1 or 2 people to go then so be it. Tell her you do not want the expense of the party and you are going out to a bar. If she doesn’t like the idea then tell her it’s just the first of many disappointments coming her way. Why would you invest any money on a party that is going to blow up in your face when nobody comes? If all she want is the attention and gifts it sounds like she’s not going to get either and you don’t have to kill yourself to make it happen.
It sounds like she’s disconnected from reality and it’s not your job to keep her there.
she know how to dael with the situation don’t you think that she didn’t notice about the cheat his fiance is doing with her.maybe she’s giving him another chance ,for the party if your the one organizing it yu should tell he other no to let her down maybe she can change her mind…..