I am an marrying my German fiance and moving to Germany in 4 months. Any advice about adjusting to new life?
devie asked:
I am a little afraid. New country, new language, etc. He knows that I am a little afraid, but I told him I will be fine-I can learn the language, make friends, etc. But I feel like a will be a big fish stuck in a sand dune! I am planning for the wedding here in Texas, and also getting my Chihuahua’s shots done, and looking into frieght companies. I spent two weeks with him in Germany to get my surroundings. I know that I will be okay…I will have to adjust especially to his style of furniture–yuck!! I don’t want to be a whiny baby….I am just afraid of moving to a different country… Can anyone give some advice so I can get over this silliness and focus on my new marriage and life?
I am a little afraid. New country, new language, etc. He knows that I am a little afraid, but I told him I will be fine-I can learn the language, make friends, etc. But I feel like a will be a big fish stuck in a sand dune! I am planning for the wedding here in Texas, and also getting my Chihuahua’s shots done, and looking into frieght companies. I spent two weeks with him in Germany to get my surroundings. I know that I will be okay…I will have to adjust especially to his style of furniture–yuck!! I don’t want to be a whiny baby….I am just afraid of moving to a different country… Can anyone give some advice so I can get over this silliness and focus on my new marriage and life?
it is cold but it rocks maybe yull meeat rammstein my freend was born ther
if your relationship is good. it wont matter the furniture.
be happy. lots of people live where youre going and find happiness with the person theyre with. adapting to surroundings is easy if you have someone wonderful in your life. be happy. peace
Eat lots of Sauerkraut. Drive fast, drink Red Bull, and listen to Rammstein and the Scorpions and you’ll be fine!
oh girl! i lived there 4 years! south of Heidelberg, i totally loved it! the castles!! [the original Disney land castle-]
i still miss it every day, great food, great clothes and not clothes made in china, like here. Where i lived the weather is about like Virginia.
quality bread, coffee and wine you name it–and your dog can go anywhere, even restarants if he is behaved, i love my german friends, in about 3 or 4 hours you can drive into Paris or Italy or Holland anywhere!! but we took the trains into Paris, but drive through the french countryside! through the Alsace area.- Germany; cobble stone streets, bike paths, fresh flowers on every corner, even the city buses are all Mercedes. the neighborhood schwim bads, or whatever– swimming places-
i loved Bavaria, [berchesgaten, Hitler house] and i love Rothenburg, an ancient walled city, i plan to fly back this summer but i wish my hubby was german! even their baby carraiges are like little cadilacs. you’ll also like the many fests they have,
their luncheon meat is to die for-and the cakes!!most of all please find a good baptist church. I love their doctors too, hospitals are nice and quiet, restful. Very good health care, please visit Heidelberg, i lived in Walldorf.
germans are clean people, and love their rose gardens. If you get invited to dinner be punctual! and bring a bottle of wine or cake, your husband will tell you, it’s the custom, [they are usually big on birthdays]. One thing isn’t always easy to find is bleach, for some reason. The women neighbors also don’t like people to shake their mop or small rug out the window.
To help to adjust to a new country, language and everything else how about if you get a book and a recording to learn the new language and look up information on the internet and in books to find out about your new country it helps.
It’s hard adjusting to a new country, but my advice would be that on day one you find a language course - there are usually some provided locally and you will meet other people that way, often in the same boat as yourself.
Join the local international womens’ society - they will be your support circle and make finding things and getting things done much easier as they will understand exactly what you are going through. They also tend to have lots of activities that you can join in with as well.
If you are going to get a job, register with as many agencies as possible, most of them have staff who speak good english so even early on in your stay it shouldn’t be an issue with the language barrier.
Buy yourself a couple of good guides to the area and go out and explore somewhere every weekend - you never know but your husband may not have been to them either and you can explore together.
Get yourself a copy of “Living and Working in Germany : A survival Guide” by Nick Daws - you will find it an indespensable way to know what to do and how to do it when it comes to all the customs, practices in your new country.
Get your husband to invite friends round for dinner - it’ll give you something to do in preparing the meal and you’ll get to meet lots of his friends and colleagues this way.
Invest in a VOIP phone and a skype account so that you can call home to your family and friends (they need to get it too) for free.
Enjoy it! Its a great opportunity to travel in Europe and will be a fantastic experience. Good Luck!
This is a major adjustment for you since you’re going to be getting used to a new place, culture and language. You can actually fly with your dog if its small see if the airline can allow you to fly with a small carrier if the dog is under a certain weight since they got carry on shoulder bag carriers with mesh screens so the animal can breathe.
You’ll be fine you’ll meet some new and interesting people and even get to see the rest of europe and make sure you got internet access so you can stay in touch with friends and family back in the states.