I am engaged and trying to plan our wedding, but we are have a big problem! I am from South Dakota born and?
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raised, all my family and friends are there. He is from Texas all his family and friends are there. We live in Texas. I really want the wedding in South Dakota and my hubby to be doesn’t care where we have it, but I know for a fact that his family and friends will not travel to South Dakota!! I know my Mom and Dad and sister would come here but I want all of our family members and friends to be there with us on such a special day, any suggestion?
I thought about having it just in SD and a reception in Texas but if we do that then at the actual wedding in SD he won’t have a best man, groomsmen or anything. My hole family is nothing but girls!
raised, all my family and friends are there. He is from Texas all his family and friends are there. We live in Texas. I really want the wedding in South Dakota and my hubby to be doesn’t care where we have it, but I know for a fact that his family and friends will not travel to South Dakota!! I know my Mom and Dad and sister would come here but I want all of our family members and friends to be there with us on such a special day, any suggestion?
I thought about having it just in SD and a reception in Texas but if we do that then at the actual wedding in SD he won’t have a best man, groomsmen or anything. My hole family is nothing but girls!
Have it somewhere in the middle. Or have it in SD and have an additional reception in TX.
I am from NY and my husband is from PA and we live in FL. We had our wedding in FL evern though all our friends and family live in other states. It was easier to plan and everyone came because we gave them a years notice.
Plan the wedding for where YOU AND HE wants it. Family will travel or they won’t no matter if it’s a block or a state away. This truely is your day and if you compromise on it for someone else you will regret it.
Friend of mine is from New Hampshire, her husband lower New York and they were married in Alaska! So it’s all about you guys!!
I had that problem. We got married in Hawaii, just us. Then held receptions in both locations.
We had a videographer make a DVD of the wedding which we played at both receptions.
Instead of one ‘big’ wedding, have two small ones. Get married in one state (I’d say South Dakota) with a legal marriage certificate and officiant. Have a reception there. Then travel to Texas, with a different officiant (you do not need a second certificate, but you do want this to be a ‘real’ wedding, too so the officiant must be licensed to marry people in Texas) and have a second wedding and reception there. Your other alternative could be a bit expensive, but with the technology the way it is, it’s certainly workable … get married wherever YOU want, and have the marriage done ‘live’ on closed circuit TV so the other people can participate. You’ll need to have a screen large enough for everyone to see you, and you’ll need a big enough place for them to meet (and party afterwards) and then have a second reception when you get to that town … that way EVERYONE can ‘be with you’ and see you the moment you become ‘man and wife.’ Your only alternative is that you could get married exactly ‘between’ the two cities you are from, which is probably some cornfield in Nebraska or Kansas with no decent building, no parking, and probably no decent road within miles and miles. You do not want to get married in the middle, because that will give people too much to ‘talk about’ when it comes to deciding who the ‘favorite group’ were … an inch off (okay, a half a mile off) and you throw them into conflict. Your third option is to elope to some ‘faraway destination’ and have your honeymoon there, then return home and have a reception in each city/town in South Dakota and Texas. My husband and I were extremely poor when we got married, and couldn’t afford to hire a all or even the minister. The minister volunteered because he knew we were living together (we told him that was why we needed to get married as soon as possible), and we got married on a state ferry, just inside the county line, because we had people who had to get onto the ferry to come to our wedding. It was a wonderful wedding (there were even other ferry passengers who watched us ‘tie the knot’) and we all had our reception in a room in the basement of the apartment hotel we lived in. We have a good income now, but NOTHING will be able to change the TOTAL HAPPINESS we felt when we got married. THAT is what your wedding is about … the two of you being TOGETHER for the rest of your lives … and THAT is what you need to think about now, not ‘where’ or ‘who can or will come’ but YOUR HAPPINESS AS HUSBAND AND WIFE.
Would having a destination wedding somewhere else be possible?
It doesn’t have to be Vegas. It could be Oklahoma if you wanted it.
My fiance & I both have a bunch of family in New Jersey, he has a small bunch of family in Pennsylvania - where we now live together, then some other relatives are all over the place. As soon as we got engaged, we agreed the wedding would be where we now live (PA). We opted to have a nearly 2-year engagement so family could have plenty of notice and that was all.
compromise and have a wedding in KS, right in the middle!
or elope and have two receptions!